Coming to therapy is one of the most courageous acts of life. It’s allowing yourself to be vulnerable so that you can become the best version of yourself. Together, we will explore your strengths & your resilience; Together, we will bring them out and shine a light on them. Together we’ll explore how you cope with the struggle that brought you to therapy. My job is to be your therapeutic sidekick, as you find and define who is the best version of yourself, and as you let that identity shine.
The systemic perspective
People live in systems. We come from families and form new ones. We have friends, we are surrounded by peers and colleagues. In a greater context, we live in a society and in a culture, sometimes in a society that is a combination of come cultures. We hold a religious view, or we hold a non-religious view. Those are all systems. Some of them are based on human relationships, some on relationships with values or ideas; however, they are all systems. Marriage and family therapists are trained to think in a systemic way and always consider context – even when we engage in individual therapy. It’s a unique point of view that takes the bigger picture of your life into account and aims for a result that will best serve your life’s ecology.
As a family therapist, I work with a systemic lens, even when I work with a single person in the room. But what does that mean? We both know, your process does not happen in a vacuum. We will explore your relationship with yourself, your values, your family, circumstances, and the culture or cultures you come from and live in. All these create the environment and ecosystem in which you operate. We’ll shine a light on your strengths and resilience and use them to pave the best path for you to be your best self. We will see what your support systems are, what might be in your way, what is, and is not part of your process. Because even when you’re alone in the therapy room, your ecosystem is in there with you. My job is to be your therapeutic sidekick, as you find and define who is the best version of yourself and as you let that identity shine.
Couples’ and Family Therapy
In couples’ therapy, we either bridge the gaps that might have come to be between you and your partner, or we find ways to separate in ways that serve you best. More often than not, both partners want the same outcome but look at different ways to get there. More often than not, life’s tasks took over life itself, doing took over being, and the partnership took a secondary place to the endless to-do lists. Even if you no longer want to be partners, even if you no longer feel romantic love for each other, we will awake positive feelings between you, so that you can move on kindly and lovingly. My job is to be your therapeutic sidekick as you both find not only the best versions of yourselves but the best version of your partnership.
The very same notions apply to family therapy. Most of the time, we will find that behaviors and to-do lists distracted family members from their shared goals and preferred outcomes. In our work together, we will strengthen the partnerships you have, the love you have for each other, the common grounds. We will bridge gaps in your points of view so that you can fully accept each other and support each other. My job is to be your therapeutic sidekick, as you become each other’s best support system and best advocates.
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Solution Focused Brief Therapy
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